Cough McCougher

i really need a break* like a roll over my foot with a car to make sure i really get a break--break*we keep passing some nasty cold around in my house* why us* k*a*s is on breathing treatments during rsv season this year* keep this note in mind* i love having people come visit and i love having my kids friends come play* but i have asked this year (very nicely) that because of k*a*s situation that people not come if they have any respiratory stuff going on* im not being a 'you know what' i just really dont want another hospital stay and i really dont want the baby sick (i spend enough time in the hospital for work-- and sick babies are  sad)* anyways* one of r*a*s friends came for a sleep over* the mom told me that she had some allergy stuff going on and that she had been to the dr and everything was fine* she got to my house and after getting over here with the girls already excited--- told me that the doctor had given the kiddo an antibiotic (which she hadn't start for these "allergies")* im in nursing school guys and i know that allergies are not treated with antibiotics* but my friend came up with this 'well just in case reason' and well--- i made a call to trust my friend* mistake* i got home from work that night and the little girl was coughing so badly that she was throwing up all over my house* some moms i will never understand* i have actually had this situation happen before with this same little girl* her mother seems to not be bothered that this little girl coughs so hard that she vomits* people* seriously* so this got me to thinking* why would a mom do this* well for starters she is a totally different kind of parent than i am* im not trying judge her---im really not* i mean heck---at this point if someone offered to have r*a*s spend the night i would probably cry with happiness because i am that exhausted* oh no---wait a minute---no i wouldn't* the whole time r*a*s was gone i would feel so guilty about her potentially getting the other kids sick that i wouldnt even rest* it would totally not be worth it* so what does this say about me* am i just a crazy mom that is too uptight* or am i a mom who has been lucky enough to have a lot of really great 'mom' models in my life to show me how to actually be one* because i did make the choice to have these kids-- right* and i did know that raising children goes past age 18--right* and i did know that life wasnt going to be about me and the amount of sleep i received at night--right* right* i am annoyed that we all got sick* but thats not why i was irritated* i am mad because my friend was putting her comfort before the well-being of my family and her own child* if a kid is coughing to the point of puking---should they really be spending the night out* absolutely not* but guess who was at home---in bed---counting sheep* not this mom right here* i was knee deep in laundry filled with some other kids vomit at 3am*

so how did i handle it with my friend* well about the time she walked in my door and i told her that her kid had coughed so hard she threw up endlessly all night and she said 'aw thats too bad' and offered no other words of her wisdom* i decided it probably wasn't worth anymore energy than what i had already exhausted* i talked to that same friend this morning and told her that r*a*s was finally able to go back to school today* she goes--'oh why wasn't she at school'* seriously* come on people*

so whats my suggestion for solution* no more sleep overs with cough mc*cougher until rsv and flu season is over*

from the mom who is sick of someone putting their needs before my kiddos and her own :)

Chlodzic, 
TFS